You can hear it shouted by parents at their kids as the child fails at various aspects of athletic competition. Thinking they are encouraging their kids they send the wrong message. What is a “good try” anyway?
It suggests a perfectly executed attempt that through no fault of the child is nevertheless unsuccessful. In truth it invariably is the opposite. This “good try” message is a poor lesson for a child. They did not succeed because they did not do everything they needed to do in preparation or execution of whatever they attempted to do. Prepare better, master the execution and keep at it until you get it right is the message parent’s need to send. Saying “good try” to a child who fails should be seldom if ever said because the cause of the failure is not only ignored but allows for no recognition of the need to address the cause of it .
~ Bob Kerrigan